Briarwood ChristianSchool, My Children and in the Name of Jesus…what scares me to death!
Paranoid! Just be positive! Don’t worry about what people think! Labeled as an abuser and one who need keep silent. Silenced and blocked as a parent by my child and her school. Briarwood Christian School
We started out there so naive and yet in the purest form. Kelly Mooney was and is the most kind person on the other end of the phone as we hoped and prayed our child would move up the list and be accepted into this Christian school. I aimed with purpose raising my child to know and take hold of Christ and others laid upon that foundation with things that will burn up. Sometimes I feel stuck like Tom Cruise in the movie “The Firm” yet I know there is an ending in sight to this nightmare of sorts.
The last two years have been a literal hades for me. The bible says in Proverbs 22:1
“A good name is to be chosen rather than great riches, and favor is better than silver or gold.”
Almost two years ago in a couple of weeks, my child walked out the door and out of my life. Disowned me. Why? As much as she would not believe, malicious parental alienation. Then, supported by the school she attended and others, her drama became me. Why? Because I have rules. Rules to protect and safeguard my children. Research says that the brain is not fully mature until the age of 25 and “It is well established that the brain undergoes a “rewiring” process that is not complete until approximately 25 years of age. This discovery has enhanced our basic understanding regarding adolescent brain maturation and it has provided support for behaviors experienced in late adolescence and early adulthood.”
Parents are in their children’s life to help be a rudder that steers them. I had rules about the phone, rules about random people not showing up to either house in the middle of the night. Things like that. Rewind, I have never met a man in education that acted more immature, yet grandiose, and elementary in his school of thought simultaneously. The former principal at Briarwood High School, the “upper campus” Dr. Shaun Brower. There were so many things that I had to take issue with and he and Mr. Steiner (the former superintendent) did not care for me. I have my conversations with them recorded…every one of them…because I live in Alabama in a one party state and can record as long as I give consent. I consent to record a call that I am on and that is legal. I had conversations with them regarding socialism, critical race theory, witchcraft with their Dungeons & Dragons club. I had qualms with my daughter seeing two men kiss during a movie that was PG-13 and my child was 12, in Coach Kerleys “character development” class. It wasn't enough that she wasn't 13, the fact that she could never unsee what she saw was still not that bad in the eyes of the school. That was another conversation with Principal Sanders. He saw the same movie 13 times and doesn't remember that part he told me. He is no longer at Briarwood either. The dual between the superintendent and the principal was embarrassingly rudimentary and I saw all sides of that. I prayed for discernment when I was younger. I can cut fake with a butter knife. When I was having a very serious conversation one day with the principal, he was chatting with his son and chewing on a chicken wing. I sent them a picture of a girl holding a fixed blade knife at the school, in the common area and nothing, cricuts. Then, a kid who threatened to shoot up the school. I talked with a Coach who was working in the interim between principals and someone on staff at Briarwood. They chided me and told me it was handled. The same kid was at school the next day. I can't speak to what Briarwood does handle, only what I have seen. To tell you these people were not safe people who I would entrust myself or my children to is an understatement. However, my children had to be at Briarwood because of a divorce decree. Yes! I am divorced for biblical reasons and the Lord does have provisions for that in His word. Don't get me started as I will debate that to the ground. I would never ever have chosen everything that has come my way but you/we need to be dang careful before we gossip and sit in judgment upon another based on information that you have not been privy or an insider to. I love my children fiercely. Only someone who has loved deeply, fiercely and has been betrayed, lied about and shunned can understand my plight.
Yet look no further than the Psalms to find a fellow sojourner that can relate:
”Indeed, it is not an enemy who insults me, or else I could bear it; it is not one who hates me who arrogantly taunts me, or else I could hide from him. But it is you, a man like me, my close friend in whom I confided. We would share personal thoughts with each other; in God’s temple we would walk together among the crowd.“
Psalms 55:12-14 NET
You are not normally deeply hurt or betrayed until you have been betrayed by someone who shouldn't have betrayed you. Someone you were close with…Who was acquainted with your ways. Someone you loved. This is personal. Yet it is up to you to choose what you do with that hurt and pain. Cry, get it all out, feel, but have the Lord guard and fortify your heart. I have been through a loss so grave that it has been a death of sorts. With eternity in our hearts we weren't meant for death. What is harder is the death of a relationship when the people are very much alive. We aren't promised tomorrow and told to live at peace as far as it depends on us. Yet peace is not the absence of conflict. It also does not mean closeness. You can't control another person. Self control is the fruit of the Spirit and that is hard enough. Yet when do you draw the line? When do you tell your story? I have been in court more times then I would like in the last few years. However, I was accused and acquitted of being an abuser at the end of March of 2022 and then cleared of that in April of 2022. However, I have been in litigation and treated like complete garbage in court. Two believers should not be in a human court per the word of God, so that should tell you enough. The response of the school and the aforementioned people was outrageous! I wrote these so called believers because I could not get help from anyone else to try to address the day my child left my house. The sad thing too is when kids have choices. They can choose a parent. So, in the last two years I've had no contact with my child. Even for me to say hello would warrant them trying to restrain me. I have been scoffed at. Lied about. Shut out. I will not be silent though. So as I was bold faced lied about and had all of that recorded, Brower met with my ex-husband and they shut me out like I was a leper in a leper colony. I may as well have shouted unclean! Unclean!No one from the Upper Campus was allowed to communicate with me about my child, which was not decreed anywhere. I was cut off completely for being a parent. No one from the school would even speak to me. The fact is, I am a survivor of abuse. Physical, mental, sexual, and emotional. More than a survivor, I am more than an overcomer in Christ. Since the devil can't steal my salvation, he wants to steal my testimony. He wants me to wear some scarlet letter of abuse or abuser. I won't wear it. I did not abuse my child. I can't even get started on the GAL and what a disadvantage the government is to the believer in a human court and what a wreck my relationship is with my own child in this messed up world we live in. These people have to make money and the beat goes on. Yet Jesus has allowed all of this and my conscience is clear. I have been maliciously alienated from my child by her parent, her school, and the state. She has to have this drama now. Her narrative is now “her testimony” and she was allowed to call me a #itch as I was a byword and dram to tell to a church baptism ceremony. All of this has separated her from me and demolished our relationship, yet defines a little of who she is now. The fact is that I am not a millionaire and won't be easily manipulated or dismissive. She now has a new woman that pretends to be her mother. Sometimes peoples lies become their version of reality. Had we had one hearing and the courts decided that I was being a parent to my child, then none of this would have happened. It is putrid.
The school also employed a coach who happened to be of Haitian descent, and in a predominantly white school, was hailed as a god like figure among the white folk of Briarwood. He was their “black person” that made them hmmm….less white. Inclusive. A non-racist school! I can't speak to this person's morale on the daily anymore than he can mine…but let us suffice it to say that when I reached out to him to help, he was a total coward. My point is that all of these people profess Christ, but they are people and a lot of them are wolves in sheeps clothing. Why do we act so surprised?
A few subpoenas later, I get to now see the truth. The conversations about me and the lies. As a believer in Christ, I believe that if you have a problem you go to the person. Not only did no one reach out to me, try to do what the bible says, they did the opposite. It is scary to me what money and status can do for a person. Even a pastor at Briarwood and his wife befriended my ex husband and all of the sudden their son is at school telling others that I am crazy and that he will never go to my house. Where did that come from? I reached out to Bruce Stallings over the matter after I went to the people and nothing was done to make peace. Even the church wanting to form their own police department and Kay Ivey signed it into legislation and having them tell me how and why it is ok. It is never okay to start your own police department at a private Christian school where you can make arrests and write tickets. What is to prevent anyone else justifying their own brand of militia in the name of protecting their sect? Things are usually swept under the rug and run like a Jesus corporation. If anyone says anything or makes a fuss they need to be silenced. Yet what are we sacrificing on the altar of peoples paychecks? Our own children. Dropping them off at a private Christian school to learn about Jesus but never living for Him at home? Never teaching your kids in the dailiness of life about Him. Why is that? Maybe people just don't have much going on with the Lord and are blind guides, scarecrows in a melon patch! They aren't drinking from the water of His word, so how can they lead others. The most terrifying thing to me is that my kids walk out of that school seeing Jesus as a subject to put on a shelf. That He is not their life and the length of their days. That He be a byword and something of the distant past. I am so convinced of Christ. I know whom I've believed. I am sure of my salvation. I don't want things to be like oh I have to go memorize my bible verse for a test. Like some great divide. I will say too that unless you are really on the surface and elite…it will be hard for you to truly connect with parents there. I just pray that whoever you are, that you will pray hard before you consider sending your child here. Do not torch your kid's relationship with Christ if that is why you are sending them there. I am not saying that is the ill fate of everyone. My son loves it there. Yet the people who are unbelieving and swimming in the shallow end are very pious and judgmental. Talk about the Lord and people will look at you so dumbfounded. I am not saying that there is not a massive opportunity to reach the lost there. Just know that you may be like Jeremiah and feel displaced and never see one person deepen their faith or come to know Him
on that journey. I have been ostracized and disrespected in ways that I would call religious abuse. And the Pied Piper just keeps on playing the dirge while people who are sleep walking in life are led to their demise. The bible leaves no room for error here when we are told, “Wake up O sleeper and rise from the dead and Christ will shine on you.” Romans 13:11
Make no mistake, you and I will stand before a Holy God and give an account. The blood won't be on my hands for not sharing my story. Will you bow to the Lord or man?
All I know is we better hasten the day because we are closer now then when we first believed. Romans 13:11
There was such a role reversal to me not even being able to have moral authority over my own child. Protected by the school, by the state, and by her parent. Yet I had no voice. It speaks profoundly to the end times: ”But understand this, that in the last days difficult times will come. For people will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, unloving, irreconcilable, slanderers, without self-control, savage, opposed to what is good, treacherous, reckless, conceited, loving pleasure rather than loving God. They will maintain the outward appearance of religion but will have repudiated its power. So avoid people like these.“
2 Timothy 3:1-5 NET
So what are you to do? Avoid people like these. The Greek meaning αποφεύγω
avoid, dodge, shun, parry, stay clear, eschew. Anyone that seeks to undermine your God given authority, and isn't even coming to you for accountability sake is a coward and most likely a worker of iniquity. Avoid them. The school should submit to what governs the church as they are a ministry of Briarwood Presbyterian Church. And Briarwood needs to submit to Gods word and the One who is the Word, Jesus. I could go on with things that would make your stomach churn. Times when a child should be believed (like when they have been touched inappropriately by someone) and in my case should not. So now as my reputation is tarnished it affects my son. So much damage because of so much cowardice. People will betray and fail you. They will say all kinds of evil about you…. Yet we are to remember that if people hate us, they hated Him first. He will never, no, not ever, leave or forsake you child. There are none like Him and blessed are you who do not turn away on account of Him and the things He has allowed in your life. This fallen soil is sometimes hard to tred. He still walks on water and parts the raging. sea.
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