Sunday, June 14, 2009

Only Child

I have so much to type and I tried to this morning but my computer would not work. Anyway, I am going to get my stuff and type away! I still have to finish my David post, and start on the next part of the armor.

I have a question in the mean time:

Are you an only child?

Then here are a few more:

If you are an only child do you think you are spoiled?
What are some of the disadvantages?
If you have siblings...are you close to them?

And any other "only child" insight would be great!


HisTreasuredPossession said...

girl, I have nothing to offer you except that Dr. Dobson was an only child. So whatever you do hear, know that God can PROFOUNDLY impact a generation with a person who is an only child!
love you girl - looking forward to meeting you soon!

Still Learning said...

I was an only child. My husband says I was spoiled but I wasn't. It's just that when you are the only kid there is more money to spend on that kid. I have four children now and the money has to get spread around that way. I also wasn't spoiled because in order to get the stuff I wanted I had a chore list posted and everything had dollar amounts attached to it. I circled what I did and my mom kept track of what I had earned. This way I learned to appreciate the value of working for money. I was also very lonely growing up. Very lonely. Definitely a con side. The other con is that I never learned "how to argue". So I was pretty unprepared when I left home and conflict arose. I had never had to deal with it before and I still am horrible at conflict. If I had a sibling around I am sure I would have been well schooled at it, lol. I was so lonely I had four kids. Plus, I love my big family. I also wanted my kids to always have someone they could call or count on besides mom and dad. I wish I had that. But, being an only child certainly has it's perks. All the attention, all the money... Hope that answers your question.

Charity said...

Well...I am an only child. My mom has one sister who never had kids. So, I am like her child too in some ways...which also means that I am the only GRANDCHILD!!! I pretty much grew up with all of their attention.
I have always said that I may have been spoiled, but I never acted rotten!! There wasn't much I did without. However, I have always been VERY VERY VERY appreciative and thankful for all that my family has done for me!!
On the other hand, I wish I had a sibling. I would love to have that kind of bond with a brother or sister.

April said...

As you know I have lots ha ha of siblings... and I love them dearly. yes, we are close.


Traci said...

I have a younger brother. We are not close at all, but we had a horribly dysfunctional family and did not really "grow up" together so I wouldn't really count that.

I have 2 kids and they alternate between being best friends and fighting like mad. Only the Lord knows where the time will take us.

Just realized I didn't answer your question at all. Sorry.

Allison Burleson said...

I am an only child and, while I am pretty spoiled now, I was definitely not spoiled as a child/teenager/young adult. I did feel left out when I was younger when most of my friends would have other kids around, but I think that would have been mitigated if I had a better relationship with my parents. One of the main advantages to being an only child is having the ability to entertain myself -- if my husband is out of town or if I find myself without plans, I find no difficulty whatsoever in finding something to do. I don't need to have other people around to be content - I don't know if that's a function of being an "only" or if it's just my personality, but I have three good friends who are also "onlies" who share the same trait. In fact, one of my sweetest friends calls it "Independent Only Child Syndrome" -- it's a rare good syndrome! As for the disadvantages, it kind of stinks that my kids won't have cousins (my sister in law is not going to have any kids) and I really love my cousins. Although, my other only child friends will serve as aunts/uncles and our kids will be cousins to each other. I've never felt disadvantaged for being an only - I don't know any different, so I don't know what I'm missing - there is not a sibling-shaped hole in my heart or anything - probably way more than you wanted to know, but this is a subject that I know something about!

jennyhope said...

THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! Thank you for this insight. It means a lot that you would take your time here.

I have 4 siblings and a host of others that I don't even know about from my biological father.

My twin and my sister that was 16 months older and I fought constantly. Me and Heather ganged up on Holly or me and Holly on Heather. I was the!!!

Then, I moved out of the house when my little brother was in kindergarten. My little sister is 7 years younger than me but we are close. She and I are most alike.

We all get along, some more than others. =)

jennyhope said...

Allison I miss you!! I think of you every time I see my printer.

Brandy said...

I am an only child...I myself have two children. We wanted two children b/c my husband and I are BOTH only children. It was lonely sometimes. I had no one to blame when things went wrong :), no one to play with when it rained and I couldn't go outside. However, I took my bestfriend every where with me. We were together every moment that our parents let us be and a few they still don't know about. Hayden became my sister. She traveled with us to the beach, to Disney , and many, many other places. She went with me to get my driver's license and is there when I need to laugh or cry. I know that as an only child I was spoiled. I was not so spoiled that I became a brat. There is a huge difference. I understood the value of a dollar and even though I got a lot of "things", I never was hateful or mean to those with less. My parents did so much for me when I was little to make sure that I never felt alone and loved. When I married my husband we immediately decided that we would have to have more than 1 child. Even though my children, 9 and 7, fight all the time, they still love each other and have each other to lean on when times get rough. I think about them being each other's rock and watching out for each other later in life. I think that it was good to be an only child but I also thing it's great to have a kids might not agree right now but they will in the future. Hope this helped maybe?!?! :)

colorfulwoman said...

Hey jenny:) I am an only child and I don't think I am spoiled...?? I remember being bored when I was a kid and playing board games by myself, my right hand against my left hand, LOL, pretty pathetic! A good thing was that I really learned how to relate to adults well, even at an early age. This was so helpful to me in my young adult phase of life and as a teenager. I guess when you don't know anything else, it is just normal. The only thing is, my Mom did everything for me (room cleaning etc) so I really never learned how to do those things well(still learning)Hope that helps! Been fun catching up on your blog, hope you are doing well:)